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Christmas: the first of three

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on December 23, 2008

well, we will have 3 Christmas celebrations this year, as we have multiple family members that don’t/won’t get along and so we have to spend time with them all, separatly….oiy

we spent a ton of money on presents this year mostly because hubby worked a LOT of extra night clinic so we could have more cash to spend for gifts and stuff…he is a very generous guy and i think after so many years of being cash strapped from school and stuff, he really is ready to spend and give and have some fun.  he is even taking his father to the cotton bowl game on jan 2, the first ever for either and they are both very excited!  i am happy for him.

so, my point of this post is….why did i mentally add up how much they spent against what we spent?  because i am selfish and a brat.  that pretty much sums it up.  hubby did it too.  we both spent hours shopping, happily, looking for things to buy them.  i went by myself with the two littles at 8:30 am to bed, bath, and beyond to get a few more things, and then to toy r us….they did great, we didn’t fight large crowds and no tears from newt cause he didn’t get a toy…although i did buy him some new play-doh so he could mix them together(his latest addiction). 

i am almost always disapointed by christmas gifts because they are always so thoughtlessly given.  we got a gift card, a gift card, and a gift card.  we didn’t even get to open anything  (i lied, i got to open one present, some placemats from another in-law).  we DO NOT like gift cards.  our niece and nephew didn’t even say thank you for the nintendo ds games, pixos, and magnetix toys we got them….they opened, tossed aside and opened the next….didn’t even really smile or say wow…of course they liked the ds games….so do the parents, by the way….when they play them they are quiet and the parents get free time (that is a separate issue that i have with parents not really parenting). 

hubby and i think said children are brats, spoiled at that.  they have lots of everything and very few limits. 

we need to agree on what we want for our two boys.  how do we do that? 

anyway, that is off topic.   back to the subject at hand.  i did a mental count and we outspent them 3 to 1 and we recieved no joy from it.  because the children went thru the presents so fast, i couldn’t enjoy them looking at them, parents the same.  everyone pretty much opened at the same time, except us cause we didn’t get presents, we got cards, ugh. 

like i said, i’m being selfish.  i wanted to get some joy from watching them…and i got none. 

why do we celebrate this way?  why is christmas so joyless?  why?  hmmmmmm….

now, when we have our own family christmas opening it will be much better cause our 3 yr old will get all the presents and have time to look at them and play with the toys before rushing to the next one. 

when did christmans become so unfun?  i mean, it’s like the more the better.  let’s just open open open and not appreciate or be thankful for what we just recieved.  well, the parents teach them this by buying them to many things.  this is something hubby and i have talked about.  since he is a doc, it will be very easy for us to go overboard, but we will not because we don’t want this for our boys….not at all….i see it all the time…brats everywhere….unappreciative…unthankful….expecting more and more each year….more and more…where does it end?????  does it end???

this is when i say i, again, want to check out from society and move to the country and forget tv because i am t.i.r.e.d. of it all.  tired of seeing the demise of our families on tv and in the church.  tired.  so tired. 

they already have valentines crap out!  can you imagine?  ridiculous….preposterous…..ugh. 

(i have other issues with valentines too, by the way…)

so, here i am asking myself, why did i do a mental tally of money spent?  why do we give presents if there is no joy to be gotten from it? why do we give presents at all?  who started that?  oh, yeah, like most everything  we do at christmas time, it started with the pagans, yeah!  I bet God really likes that, huh? 

i’m starting to question lots of things, and this is good because i will grow from it, but it is also bad because it will likely cause some tension in the family if/when i push the issue….hubby likes to ignore most of these things…i will have to take it slowly with him if i want to change the way our family celebrates (which i do). 

now, tommorow, christmas part 2 with my mom and step dad….yeah (she says with sarcasm in her voice cause her mom humg up on her a week ago when she couldn’t go to mom’s house on mom’s schedule and mom got mad and hung up…)

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My love/hate relationship with the TV

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on December 15, 2008

Well, I have found that TV drives me crazy and makes me happy at the same time.  Before I had kids, I watched whatever and didn’t think a thing about it.  The amount, the content, the length whatever….it didn’t bother me or concern me.  I used to have the TV on all day, or most of the day, and watch off and on, but mostly I like the noise, and the fact that I was bored (remember, this is BEFORE kids).  Now, I have a new appreciation for TV.  Right now, newt is watching Dora the Explorer and he is quiet and I have a few mins to surf and catch up on email.  This would be the “love” part.  The “hate” part is that as soon as I turn off the TV, said child will then follow me around for the rest of the day because he doesn’t know what to do with himself!  I HAVE to tell him what to do!!  ALL DAY LONG!!!!  He has creativity in him, he will play by himself sometimes without being told what to do….but he mostly just does nothing.  So, after a few hours of no TV and we have cleaned and eaten and changed the baby and the laundry….you know what…the TV comes back on.   And again….I, ugh…i dunno. 

I have this romantic vision of what a no TV child looks like:  he plays quietly by himself for hours on end coming up with game after game, imaginary worlds where dinosaurs and puppies are friends and play alongside each other on the couch.  Now, I realize this is a total fantasy and that this child likely doesn’t exist! 

ugh, what am i trying to say. 

I guess, I’m tired of worrying about the incessant violence I see on TV and how it is polluting my child’s mind in ways I will never know.  I want him to play nice, and not hit or push or kick, many of these things are routinely on cartoons.  I want him to stay innocent and I know that is never going to happen. 

I am keenly aware of the shotguns and axes and bombs and such on cartoons…and this is just on Tom and Jerry!!  Think about what Wile E Coyote did to the Roadrunner!!!  I mean, how did my mom ever let me watch this stuff?

It makes me wonder about that little 8 year old boy who shot his dad and his dad’s friend.  He did it on purpose, but could he have possible understood the consequences such actions would cause?  Did he really understand what would happen?  Did he think his dad and friend would just get up again and be magically normal (like Tom).   My friend and her family, which includes a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl, routinely watch R rated movies, like Batman The Dark Knight.  Would you let your 4 year old watch that?  I haven’t even seen it, but it being R rated concerns me.  His daddy says it will make him tough.  Either that, or he will have no empathy because he has seen to much violence in his short, little life.  Children are shown these images all the time and do we ever stop to think if this might be good or not?  I doubt it. 

I was at the park two weeks ago and a little boy came up to me and said he was going to see “Twilight” the movie.  It’s about good vampires and bad vampires, he said.  He was only 4.  (shakes head sadly)

I wonder what video games like Grand Theft Auto 4 are doing to our youth. 

I wonder if it makes a difference, or am I just being silly and an alarmist?  I mean, I grew up with these same images, and I am alright, right???  Of course, I only watched a small amount of TV, and it was way different than it is now, ya know. 

All I know is, I limit TV during the day.  Somedays are better than others….somedays like today are not so good (it’s 45 degrees outside and I am not leaving unless I have to, so…we have to have some entertainment)

It’s a hard habit to break….

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Is Christmas Pagan or Christian???

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on December 4, 2008

I like Christmas…not for the presents…although those are very nice…but for the decorations and the great music and the weather and it’s a great reason to get together with your family and friends.  Do I have a Christmas tree? Yes..we actually bought a new, 9 1/2 foot artificial one and even bought new lights to go on it…they have 16 diffrent functions…oh yeah!!  Now, do I believe the Christmas tree has ANYTHING to do with the birth of Christ, Yeshua?  NO…I think they are pretty and cool and festive and that is as far as I take it.  The Christmas celebration is pagan in nature, but so is Easter…does that mean I don’t celebrate the resurrection of Yeshua?  NO…it means we have fun collecting eggs and our son has fun finding them and that is as far as it goes….it’s just something fun for the kids….I know, you are saying that if the world does it then we, as  Christians, shouldn’t be doing it… I mean rabbits, eggs, fertility….it has paganism written all over it.  But, I digress, so back to the main subject….

Yes, Christmas is a pagan holiday.  Constantine mixed pagan and Christian holidays long ago so that they would stop killing us and make life better for everyone….

Now, I know the tree has absolutely nothing to do with the birth of Christ…I know that Christ was probably born sometime in the summer…i also know that for me, this is just something fun to do with my family.   I was gonna nix santa this year and let my 3.5 yr old know that he wasn’t real, but hubby likes the santa thing, so…he will figure it out.  Children grow up way to fast in this day and age and are asked to look at things and hear things that they are way to young to understand.  Santa doens’t bother me…he’s cute.  He makes a great decoration.   I don’t put to much thought into it.    I know the history and as long as I make it a priority to tell my sons that this is the day we celebrate Jesus’ birth, that is all that matters….we can discuss semantics later.  When they are older. 

As for when Yeshua was really born, there are two schools of thought…read this neat article

  http://www.hebrew4christians.com/Articles/Christmas/christmas.html

it gives both arguments for a summer birth and a winter birth for Christ.

As for me and my house?  we will celebrate Christmas for what it is… a time to hang with family and friends and give gifts and sing Happy Birthday to Jesus…I am even gonna make Him a cake!!!  KEWL, huh?

If you don’t have a tree, more power to ya, but kids grow up so very fast.  I prefer mine to have some childhood while they are still children.

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