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“The Watchmen” Movie, and the 8yr old girl next to me…

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on March 17, 2009

I went on a date…with my hubby!!  Yeah, it doesn’t happen all that often, so when it does, I get pretty excited.  We went to a place called The Movie Tavern, where you eat actual food and can drink beer, wine or cokes!  Hubby loved being able to drink a beer while watching a movie.  I had a huge plate of nachos (they needed more cheese) and hubby had quesadillas (he thinks they were deep fried, they were super crispy…too crispy).  The food was fine, and we will likely go back cuz, yknow, two birds…one stone…

Anyway, the movie was hmmmm, ok.  It’s about 2 1/2 hours and has some great action scenes.  It’s about a group of superheroes and their lives together.  One of them gets killed, and some of the others come together to figure out who did it and to stop more murders of other heroes.  The movie has a lot of back story moments. and while we need to know the back story, it slows down the movie quite a bit.  After awhile, I was like, who cares! Let’s get on with @ss kicking already!  Anyway, several times I was wondering how much longer it would last…I don’t often do that…I am pretty easily entertained when it comes to movies.  The filming was great and it did have lots of cool effects and stop action sequences and slow motion.

One of the characters, Dr. Manhattan, is worth mentioning because he was naked the entire movie, except for a few times.  He is glowing and blue and, apparently, all-knowing and all-seeing and can manipulate everything, metal, sand, water, among other things.  His back story was cool, and pretty fast.  The reason I mention his nakedness is because we get a full frontal…EVERYTIME!!!  And let me tell ya ladies, if he is that big flacid…I shutter to think how big it would be erect!!  YIKES!!!  It was very distracting because everytime he was on screen, I invariably had to look at it.  You know, it’s not like I have never seen a p*nis before, but y’know, it’s not often I see one on a 40 foot screen, and blue…  My hubby felt the same way, he was looking at it too.  Human nature.  All I could think was, d*mn, you would be bo-legged after that….but…I digress…

Anyway.. Soapbox alert

There was a little girl sitting next to me.  She was probably 7-9 years old.  Now, I am no expert at guessing ages, but she was obviously NOT 17.  This is a rated r movie for a reason, as children should not be allowed to see it.  It is very violent, with sex and tons of cussing.  The girl covered her eyes several times, as did I, but you could still hear the power saw cutting thru a mans forearms…you could still hear anther man’s skull get hacked to pieces with a cleaver….when I say violent, I mean VIOLENT. 

I wanna know what the hell the mother was thinking?  I would have left…wait, I would never let my kid see that in the first place, so that is a moot point.  At what point, in the decision making process, did the mom say to herself, ” hmm, it’s rated r, but I’m sure it’s not that bad, I mean it’s about heroes, right?” 

Did she ever stop to think that those images will be with her kid for awhile?  Maybe give her nightmares?  Did that occur to her??  I say this from experience, when I was a child, like 7 or 8, my mom and her first husband took me to see “The Exorcist” at the drive-inn.  Well, what a lovely movie for a child!  I remember looking out the back windshield at a cartoon that was playing across the lot, trying not to look at the screen or listen to the words.  I remember that to this day. 

Do parents consider what they let thier children watch these days anymore???  We are watching alot of PBS because there is no violence, and I don’t have to worry about it, not even the commercials (well the promos for the business that donate money).  I’ve talked before about my friends and thier kids, who are 4 and 2, how they went to see “Batman Begins.”  When we finally saw it on DVD, we just shook our heads at how irresponsible it is to let babies see such violence.  No wonder we have a legion of children who routinely lash out at teachers, parents and each other.  It couldn’t have anything to do with the fodder we let them watch on the movie screen, could it…of course not….(says with heavy sarcasm)

Anyway, I feel sorry for so many kids that are subjected to this trash because the parents don’t have enough sense to stay home and watch “Cars” instead…(shakes head and sighs)

Anyway, as for the movie…I wouldn’t watch it again.  Hubby feels the same.  I asked him if he would buy it and he said no. 

“Gran Torino” was far superior…and is worth buying.

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you never know….

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on March 13, 2009

how much crap you have until you have to pack it all up….3.5 months in advance of upcoming move….ugh

my scrapbooking alone took up 5 boxes…mainly because paper is freakin heavy…so they are 1/2 scrapbook 1/2 clothing, kids clothing at that. 

on the positive side…this frees up much needed rubermaid storage bins, yeah!!!

oh, and by the way, i am a total Twilight freak!  i have gone thru the series twice now and am currently addicted to fan fiction on the twilight saga site…ugh, i have a problem.  i think i am gonna read it again…who am i kidding, i am going to read it again..hubby thinks i’m losing it…who am i kidding, i lost it the moment i had kids….y’know?

so….off to waste time….

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Christmas 2&3

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on January 6, 2009

Christmas with my mom and step-dad wasn’t so bad this year.  It was a little boring, but we got thru it!  My husband even said it wasn’t so bad, which is BIG for him.  No, my mom didn’t apologize for hanging up on me…didn’t even mention that it happened. 

Christmas at home was much better.  Newt, who is 3 years and 8 months (when did THAT happen?) loved his presents and played with them immediately!  Yay!!  Just what I wanted.  We opened a new train set, it spirals up and he immediately wanted to set it up and play with it…the other presents were forgotten.  Until I told him to open something else!  He got a wooden train set, a marble run, a 3 pack of trains, and a bubble maker for the bath tub.  He loved it and wanted more presents, of course. 

Hubby’s mom and sister came over for a few hours and it was mostly uneventful.  We did get more gift cards, though!!!  My favorite!!  I have already used them to buy groceries and a gift for someone else…that’s is why I don’t like them….off my soapbox NOW!! 

anyway…that’s it!

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Christmas: the first of three

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on December 23, 2008

well, we will have 3 Christmas celebrations this year, as we have multiple family members that don’t/won’t get along and so we have to spend time with them all, separatly….oiy

we spent a ton of money on presents this year mostly because hubby worked a LOT of extra night clinic so we could have more cash to spend for gifts and stuff…he is a very generous guy and i think after so many years of being cash strapped from school and stuff, he really is ready to spend and give and have some fun.  he is even taking his father to the cotton bowl game on jan 2, the first ever for either and they are both very excited!  i am happy for him.

so, my point of this post is….why did i mentally add up how much they spent against what we spent?  because i am selfish and a brat.  that pretty much sums it up.  hubby did it too.  we both spent hours shopping, happily, looking for things to buy them.  i went by myself with the two littles at 8:30 am to bed, bath, and beyond to get a few more things, and then to toy r us….they did great, we didn’t fight large crowds and no tears from newt cause he didn’t get a toy…although i did buy him some new play-doh so he could mix them together(his latest addiction). 

i am almost always disapointed by christmas gifts because they are always so thoughtlessly given.  we got a gift card, a gift card, and a gift card.  we didn’t even get to open anything  (i lied, i got to open one present, some placemats from another in-law).  we DO NOT like gift cards.  our niece and nephew didn’t even say thank you for the nintendo ds games, pixos, and magnetix toys we got them….they opened, tossed aside and opened the next….didn’t even really smile or say wow…of course they liked the ds games….so do the parents, by the way….when they play them they are quiet and the parents get free time (that is a separate issue that i have with parents not really parenting). 

hubby and i think said children are brats, spoiled at that.  they have lots of everything and very few limits. 

we need to agree on what we want for our two boys.  how do we do that? 

anyway, that is off topic.   back to the subject at hand.  i did a mental count and we outspent them 3 to 1 and we recieved no joy from it.  because the children went thru the presents so fast, i couldn’t enjoy them looking at them, parents the same.  everyone pretty much opened at the same time, except us cause we didn’t get presents, we got cards, ugh. 

like i said, i’m being selfish.  i wanted to get some joy from watching them…and i got none. 

why do we celebrate this way?  why is christmas so joyless?  why?  hmmmmmm….

now, when we have our own family christmas opening it will be much better cause our 3 yr old will get all the presents and have time to look at them and play with the toys before rushing to the next one. 

when did christmans become so unfun?  i mean, it’s like the more the better.  let’s just open open open and not appreciate or be thankful for what we just recieved.  well, the parents teach them this by buying them to many things.  this is something hubby and i have talked about.  since he is a doc, it will be very easy for us to go overboard, but we will not because we don’t want this for our boys….not at all….i see it all the time…brats everywhere….unappreciative…unthankful….expecting more and more each year….more and more…where does it end?????  does it end???

this is when i say i, again, want to check out from society and move to the country and forget tv because i am t.i.r.e.d. of it all.  tired of seeing the demise of our families on tv and in the church.  tired.  so tired. 

they already have valentines crap out!  can you imagine?  ridiculous….preposterous…..ugh. 

(i have other issues with valentines too, by the way…)

so, here i am asking myself, why did i do a mental tally of money spent?  why do we give presents if there is no joy to be gotten from it? why do we give presents at all?  who started that?  oh, yeah, like most everything  we do at christmas time, it started with the pagans, yeah!  I bet God really likes that, huh? 

i’m starting to question lots of things, and this is good because i will grow from it, but it is also bad because it will likely cause some tension in the family if/when i push the issue….hubby likes to ignore most of these things…i will have to take it slowly with him if i want to change the way our family celebrates (which i do). 

now, tommorow, christmas part 2 with my mom and step dad….yeah (she says with sarcasm in her voice cause her mom humg up on her a week ago when she couldn’t go to mom’s house on mom’s schedule and mom got mad and hung up…)

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My love/hate relationship with the TV

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on December 15, 2008

Well, I have found that TV drives me crazy and makes me happy at the same time.  Before I had kids, I watched whatever and didn’t think a thing about it.  The amount, the content, the length whatever….it didn’t bother me or concern me.  I used to have the TV on all day, or most of the day, and watch off and on, but mostly I like the noise, and the fact that I was bored (remember, this is BEFORE kids).  Now, I have a new appreciation for TV.  Right now, newt is watching Dora the Explorer and he is quiet and I have a few mins to surf and catch up on email.  This would be the “love” part.  The “hate” part is that as soon as I turn off the TV, said child will then follow me around for the rest of the day because he doesn’t know what to do with himself!  I HAVE to tell him what to do!!  ALL DAY LONG!!!!  He has creativity in him, he will play by himself sometimes without being told what to do….but he mostly just does nothing.  So, after a few hours of no TV and we have cleaned and eaten and changed the baby and the laundry….you know what…the TV comes back on.   And again….I, ugh…i dunno. 

I have this romantic vision of what a no TV child looks like:  he plays quietly by himself for hours on end coming up with game after game, imaginary worlds where dinosaurs and puppies are friends and play alongside each other on the couch.  Now, I realize this is a total fantasy and that this child likely doesn’t exist! 

ugh, what am i trying to say. 

I guess, I’m tired of worrying about the incessant violence I see on TV and how it is polluting my child’s mind in ways I will never know.  I want him to play nice, and not hit or push or kick, many of these things are routinely on cartoons.  I want him to stay innocent and I know that is never going to happen. 

I am keenly aware of the shotguns and axes and bombs and such on cartoons…and this is just on Tom and Jerry!!  Think about what Wile E Coyote did to the Roadrunner!!!  I mean, how did my mom ever let me watch this stuff?

It makes me wonder about that little 8 year old boy who shot his dad and his dad’s friend.  He did it on purpose, but could he have possible understood the consequences such actions would cause?  Did he really understand what would happen?  Did he think his dad and friend would just get up again and be magically normal (like Tom).   My friend and her family, which includes a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl, routinely watch R rated movies, like Batman The Dark Knight.  Would you let your 4 year old watch that?  I haven’t even seen it, but it being R rated concerns me.  His daddy says it will make him tough.  Either that, or he will have no empathy because he has seen to much violence in his short, little life.  Children are shown these images all the time and do we ever stop to think if this might be good or not?  I doubt it. 

I was at the park two weeks ago and a little boy came up to me and said he was going to see “Twilight” the movie.  It’s about good vampires and bad vampires, he said.  He was only 4.  (shakes head sadly)

I wonder what video games like Grand Theft Auto 4 are doing to our youth. 

I wonder if it makes a difference, or am I just being silly and an alarmist?  I mean, I grew up with these same images, and I am alright, right???  Of course, I only watched a small amount of TV, and it was way different than it is now, ya know. 

All I know is, I limit TV during the day.  Somedays are better than others….somedays like today are not so good (it’s 45 degrees outside and I am not leaving unless I have to, so…we have to have some entertainment)

It’s a hard habit to break….

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Mother-in-law update

Posted by justanotherstayathomemom on October 22, 2008

My mother in law is doing great…already bitchin up a storm about her daughter who lives with her!  She had colon cancer, and silly me, I didn’t realize they were taking out her entire colon AND rectum, even though her tumore had dissapeared.  I didn’t know that!  When you have cancer you get the offending body part removed…I understand that, but I guess I just didn’t put two and two together…no matter what she was going to get a colostomy bag and her colon removed, it was just a matter of time.  She has already had breast cancer and beaten it, and now apparently colon cancer.  The tumor, by the way, “melted” from sight.  Her surgeon told my hubby that there was just a small scar where it used to be.  Praise the Lord because it is only because of His grace that she survived this!!  Now comes the biopsy.  They also took out some lymph nodes and will biopsy those to see if the cancer spread there.  Hopefully not.

She has been through alot and it would be nice for her to be healthy again.

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